Ever been in a situation where you slowly start to realise that you’re the only one calling? The only one making the effort to spend time or even just check in?
After a while it starts to feel as though we’re trying too hard and sometimes because we’ve become so accustomed, we keep pressing on despite the negative feelings that can begin to build. We can develop grudges or worse and still we may keep trying to fight for space in the individual’s life, which in the end isn’t good for anyone.
We can’t spend time focused on those that are not willing to make us priorities in their lives, especially if the reverse isn’t true. Sure we all get busy and can’t always make time for those that we should, however, a little elbow grease can go a long way. If you’re doing your part and making an effort, don’t you think you deserve the same courtesy? The problem is, often we don’t.
I’ve been as much guilty of this over the years as I have been on the receiving end and the truth is, nowadays I’d rather spend an extra minute checking in with a loved one to make sure all is well, than suddenly realise that the individual feels so excluded that they decide to omit themselves from my life all together.
Not being in someone’s life for this kind of reason doesn’t mean we no longer care about them, it just means we care about ourselves too and want what’s best for our emotional health. Don’t fight to be in anyone’s life, don’t have to be ‘invited in’ like some kind of vampire, especially when your door’s wide open.
Is it tough for you to let go when you know you should? Talk to me in the comments below ^_^!